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Many parents think that for children to learn and correct their bad behavior, they need to feel bad and suffer. That is why they are punished. They punish them for having a hard time in the hope that this will change their behavior for the better in the future. Nothing is further from reality. Having a bad time will only make them feel resentment and resentment towards the person or people who have made them suffer.

Punish the children

Punishing children means making them suffer for not behaving according to the expectations of the parents or the responsible adult. The objective of the parents is for the child to remember how badly he went through the punishment (bad words, yelling, a while in his bedroom, taking away privileges without prior notice, spanking …) so that he does not perform that bad behavior again.

Alternatives to punishment

It is important to understand that children must be set rules and limits so that they grow up in a healthy way and knowing what is expected of them at all times. But this does not imply that you should punish them, far from it. The best thing is to use the consequences of the acts with the children. This implies establishing rules and limits and agreeing on consequences in case of breaking those rules. Children will know what is expected of them and what the consequences will be of breaking these rules, so they will feel that they are in control.

Understand your children

There is no instruction manual where you can learn everything you need to instill positive discipline, but follow your instinct based on love for your children, and you will see everything clearly. It is in your power to reflect and choose a respectful way to raise your children and prepare them for the world that awaits them once they become adults. When your children show wrong behaviors, it is your duty to show them what the correct alternative to that behavior is. And remember … your children don’t need to suffer from learning it.

Darren Beck